We don’t have to relax our standards, but we can certainly lower our expectations.
Most people do what they want in the moment. They choose what’s the easiest in the moment. Most people don’t line up to any kind of standard.
So why do we expect them to be anything orher, than what they are? Why are we surprised or dissapointed?
Many if not the most parts of surprise comes from high expectations.
Big ambitions, low expectations.