When a person says “i cannot do that”, i never consider this as a skill issue. Any skill can be learned at a decent level by any reasonable person. The question is: does the person wants to learn the skill?
Learning takes time and hard work. Hard work and time allocation comes from the motivation to do so. The harder the skill - the more motivation required. The more time that needs to be invested, the more discipline and dedication needs to be put learning.
I don’t believe in motivation, i believe in discipline. Motivation is only the first step to build real discipline. Motivation stop working much sooner than the deed reaches the half of the progress. Then only the built discipline saves you from failing.
If you want to learn a skill, you start with motivation, strong enough to build the discipline, and then steadily move towards destination.
Moving is the key. By steps of any magnitude. But by the constant ones.
Only the disciplined ones are free in life. If you are undisciplined, you are a slave to your moods. – Eliud Kipchoge