I love to be in good relations with everyone around me, but often it evolves into a fear of disapproval. When you don’t want to offend someone so badly, so you start to act like everyone else around.
The striving to get in good relations with everyone has a fundamental problem: the people don’t like something that they cannot understand. Often they fear it, sometimes fear translates into hate. If people can understand you, they gain trust in you, and thus you improve relations. But being understandable has a dangerous trap - to become and start thinking like everyone else. Most of the people think inside the box, inside the ways of living that their parents, and parents of the parents, accomodated over the years. Most of the people think conservative ways, ways of low-risk, stable lives (in opposition to that see money is a resource).
But i don’t want to break up with the rest of the world and try to seem smarter than everyone. That’s the direct way to social hermitage. I want to be connected with people, but do not depend on that connection. To show that i’m not in decline of the way of everyone’s living, but to propose alternatives. To show that there is something outside the box, some way of living that was there all the time, some possibilities that our ancestors weren’t able to see or were too scared to step into.
I don’t decline social media as the platform of sharing my ideas. Yet i am not drowning in them. I find comfort of listening to other smart people that want to reach out with well-defined thoughts.
I don’t fear being judged - i hear everyone, but listen to few. I don’t fear being unaccepted because i know that my purpose is valid. I’ll never do something, that i don’t want, to impress someone, but i will always try to understand other person’s purpose.
That’s the way of balance.